Yesterday, I talked about finding truth on our own. Today is a new day.
The presentation itself wasn't that bad as we've spent weeks preparing for them. I've seen all of them do fine when it was just us and without the pressure to perform. Standing in front of a crowd makes a lot of us uncomfortable and I get it. I used to do piano recitals twice a year growing up and the thought of messing up and sounding like farts used to make me lose sleep. It can be really scary when you think about how others might judge your performance, especially if you know others might do better than you. After a few years I learned to look forward to them to show how much I've improved since the previous year. In the same was as it was for me as it is for my students, it was their frame of mind going into their presentations that made the most difference in how well they did.
We suffer because we cling onto certain ideas about things. It could be our insecurities over our hair, looks, job, our assumptions on how others will treat/view us, etc. When we get stuck in our heads we end up amplifying our fears and doubts tenfold and it makes them harder to overcome. This creates a vicious cycle of digging the hole deeper from trying to think everything through. The worst thing we can do to stop thinking about something is to tell ourselves to not think about it. If someone told you not to think about pink elephants, what do you think your next thought would be? The inception already happened, so now that you've been told not to, of course you're going to think about them!
This applies to all areas of our lives. If we constantly think about how things could go wrong in a situation, they inevitably will. Conversely, if we focus on success and how to achieve our goals we tend to eventually come to find a way to manifest it. We become what we think about, so rather than focusing on the negatives, seeing things as an opportunity to grow can help us live happier and better.
When it comes to personal growth we are our own best measure of success. "Am I better than I was yesterday?" If the answer to that question is 'no', then what can we do to change that? The last step is getting out of our head and just doing things as best we can.
Peace
"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment." - Marcus AureliusMy kids had their presentations today, where they'd perform a basic speech in front of their parents. I could tell that they were nervous and although I knew they wanted to just skip it entirely, I know that it's necessary for them to get over that fear in order to grow confidence and really shine with learning English. The kids who were able to view the presentation as a way to show off to their parents did much better compared to those who saw it as embarrassing.
The presentation itself wasn't that bad as we've spent weeks preparing for them. I've seen all of them do fine when it was just us and without the pressure to perform. Standing in front of a crowd makes a lot of us uncomfortable and I get it. I used to do piano recitals twice a year growing up and the thought of messing up and sounding like farts used to make me lose sleep. It can be really scary when you think about how others might judge your performance, especially if you know others might do better than you. After a few years I learned to look forward to them to show how much I've improved since the previous year. In the same was as it was for me as it is for my students, it was their frame of mind going into their presentations that made the most difference in how well they did.
We suffer because we cling onto certain ideas about things. It could be our insecurities over our hair, looks, job, our assumptions on how others will treat/view us, etc. When we get stuck in our heads we end up amplifying our fears and doubts tenfold and it makes them harder to overcome. This creates a vicious cycle of digging the hole deeper from trying to think everything through. The worst thing we can do to stop thinking about something is to tell ourselves to not think about it. If someone told you not to think about pink elephants, what do you think your next thought would be? The inception already happened, so now that you've been told not to, of course you're going to think about them!
This applies to all areas of our lives. If we constantly think about how things could go wrong in a situation, they inevitably will. Conversely, if we focus on success and how to achieve our goals we tend to eventually come to find a way to manifest it. We become what we think about, so rather than focusing on the negatives, seeing things as an opportunity to grow can help us live happier and better.
When it comes to personal growth we are our own best measure of success. "Am I better than I was yesterday?" If the answer to that question is 'no', then what can we do to change that? The last step is getting out of our head and just doing things as best we can.
Peace
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| It starts from the mind and is then manifested in the world around us. |
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