Yesterday, I talked about doing things from the heart. Today is a new day.
A huge misconception people tend to have is that getting a boyfriend/girlfriend is going to make them happier (NOT TRUE). Sure, you might find happiness in the short-term, that honey-moon phase of life eventually ends and you check back into reality. If you weren't happy before dating someone chances are you're not going to be much different during the relationship down. Not much is going to change. When things go wrong we often look for the faults in our partners for why things "aren't right". A lot of us refuse to accept the possibility that the problem may lie in us.
The problem with not owning up to our problems and taking responsibility for the things in our lives is that we end up being dishonest to ourselves. It's generally in our nature to attribute problems with outside sources as a protective mechanism, but until we acknowledge how our actions also contribute to everything bad that happens to us we'll never grow. We can't learn from our mistakes if we pretend we never make any.
Learning to take responsibility is often a part of growing up. When we move out we end up having to manage our lives by ourselves. Cooking, cleaning, paying bills, working, etc. When we have children the responsibilities go up. It's something we generally learn naturally as we get older. If we don't take the responsibility to take care of ourselves our lives generally tend to feel miserable, as if everything around us is falling apart and spiraling out of control. Practicing mindfulness has also helped me be aware of a lot of my own faults. Of course knowledge means nothing without action, so as I've learned to recognize my faults I try spending time to think about how I can mitigate them to better myself.
To me, responsibility isn't just about acknowledgment, it's also what you do that really matters. As we become more responsible, you find that you're also more independent of others. The more independent we are, the more free we become.
Peace
"The disappearance of a sense of responsibility is the most far-reaching consequence of submission to authority." - Stanley MilgramFor some, living a life completely free of discomfort is their prerogative. While there's nothing wrong with wanting to live comfortably, going along with everything making promises of an easier life gives you something to blame when things don't turn out the way you want them to.
A huge misconception people tend to have is that getting a boyfriend/girlfriend is going to make them happier (NOT TRUE). Sure, you might find happiness in the short-term, that honey-moon phase of life eventually ends and you check back into reality. If you weren't happy before dating someone chances are you're not going to be much different during the relationship down. Not much is going to change. When things go wrong we often look for the faults in our partners for why things "aren't right". A lot of us refuse to accept the possibility that the problem may lie in us.
The problem with not owning up to our problems and taking responsibility for the things in our lives is that we end up being dishonest to ourselves. It's generally in our nature to attribute problems with outside sources as a protective mechanism, but until we acknowledge how our actions also contribute to everything bad that happens to us we'll never grow. We can't learn from our mistakes if we pretend we never make any.
Learning to take responsibility is often a part of growing up. When we move out we end up having to manage our lives by ourselves. Cooking, cleaning, paying bills, working, etc. When we have children the responsibilities go up. It's something we generally learn naturally as we get older. If we don't take the responsibility to take care of ourselves our lives generally tend to feel miserable, as if everything around us is falling apart and spiraling out of control. Practicing mindfulness has also helped me be aware of a lot of my own faults. Of course knowledge means nothing without action, so as I've learned to recognize my faults I try spending time to think about how I can mitigate them to better myself.
To me, responsibility isn't just about acknowledgment, it's also what you do that really matters. As we become more responsible, you find that you're also more independent of others. The more independent we are, the more free we become.
Peace
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| Life's responsibilities are in our hands |
Today's assignment: what responsibilities do you have that you've been neglecting? What can you improve on?
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