Yesterday, we talked about finding where we fit into life. Today is a new day.
I think there's a very important thing that people forget: if you're not happy by yourself, how can you expect to be happy with someone else? Being in a relationship can make you feel on top of the world and even bring someone happiness who used to be depressed, there's no question about that. However, what happens when that person is gone? You're back at square one. I understand that some people want to be happy and turn to love thinking that's the ultimate happy-maker, but in the end it's selfish as it doesn't consider the other person's feelings. What happens if your negativity ends up bringing them down with you?
Life will bring you love when you are ready to love, but only you can truly make yourself happy. There's no need to rush. When we can't learn to be happy on our own, we're essentially a slave to not only our emotions, but to the affection of others. It becomes a slippery-slope of needing validation and craving the next fix to get the next bit of euphoria. You become an addict.
When I was in high-school my relationship with my girlfriend at the time was exactly like that. We constantly sought each other for happiness and eventually we kept looking for other things to make us happy, but we were always miserable. We got "over" each other and our relationship ended up devolving into that of either being in bliss or constantly fighting with each other. We couldn't be happy because we weren't happy ourselves and it reflected in our relationship.
In the same way, no fancy car, no luxurious house, no income, no nothing can make you truly happy like you might think it would. It's all dependent on our perspective. Our mind dictates how we see everything, so if we create everything around us, only we can make peace with ourselves as well. It starts and ends with us - we are everything.
The choice is all up to us.
Peace
"Nothing can bring you peace but yourself." - Ralph Waldo EmersonI was having a conversation with my girlfriend the other day about our relationship and how some people rush into relationships when they're not ready for one. I think a lot of people have the mindset that they need a partner in order to be complete. Although the concept of monogamy is relatively new (the last few hundred years compared to the rest of our existence), the Disney-perfect idea of finding "the one" and living happily-ever-after has made some people too obsessed with searching for "true love".
I think there's a very important thing that people forget: if you're not happy by yourself, how can you expect to be happy with someone else? Being in a relationship can make you feel on top of the world and even bring someone happiness who used to be depressed, there's no question about that. However, what happens when that person is gone? You're back at square one. I understand that some people want to be happy and turn to love thinking that's the ultimate happy-maker, but in the end it's selfish as it doesn't consider the other person's feelings. What happens if your negativity ends up bringing them down with you?
Life will bring you love when you are ready to love, but only you can truly make yourself happy. There's no need to rush. When we can't learn to be happy on our own, we're essentially a slave to not only our emotions, but to the affection of others. It becomes a slippery-slope of needing validation and craving the next fix to get the next bit of euphoria. You become an addict.
When I was in high-school my relationship with my girlfriend at the time was exactly like that. We constantly sought each other for happiness and eventually we kept looking for other things to make us happy, but we were always miserable. We got "over" each other and our relationship ended up devolving into that of either being in bliss or constantly fighting with each other. We couldn't be happy because we weren't happy ourselves and it reflected in our relationship.
In the same way, no fancy car, no luxurious house, no income, no nothing can make you truly happy like you might think it would. It's all dependent on our perspective. Our mind dictates how we see everything, so if we create everything around us, only we can make peace with ourselves as well. It starts and ends with us - we are everything.
The choice is all up to us.
Peace
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| Nothing can make you happy until you choose to be happy yourself |
Today's assignment: Learn to be happy. Love yourself, your life, everything. You're all that you need.
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